WHAT DO YOU EXPECT?

What are you expecting? Are you expecting to succeed or merely hoping? Are you expecting to land that job or waiting to see what happens? Are you expecting a successful marriage or taking it for granted day by day? Are you expecting success with your fitness goals, training well, but eating poorly? All these questions are valid and important.

I KNOW WHAT TO DO. I KNOW WHAT I WANT. 

WHY AM I NOT DOING IT?

We've all been there, seriously. We've all experienced a goal we greatly desire to achieve, and despite our best efforts, well-meaning intentions, and burning desire.....it forever seems to evade us. Look at losing weight. How many people do you know wants, and tried, year after year, to lose weight? They know they need to exercise, have a good idea what they should and should not be eating, do well for a few days or perhaps a week, or maybe even a few months, then it all goes to pot. Why?

CONSCIOUS AND SUBCONSCIOUS THOUGHT

This is where it's all at. We think consciously. We act consciously. Well, some of the time. Here's the catch. It's what's in our subconscious that will determine what we think, say, and do when we're on 'auto-pilot'. That's right, autopilot. Don't kid yourself, you're on auto-pilot several times throughout the day. When you're distracted, many times you go on auto. When you're stressed, auto. Emotionally charged....auto. You'll find your subconscious leading you places you really don't want to be, yet it's hard for many to recognize they're no longer thinking for themselves, and well, plans get thwarted, dreams are put aside, relationships suffer, and goals seem forever unachievable. 

WHAT'S IN THE SUBCONSCIOUS?

Anything you can imagine, really. The subconscious is non-objective, it accepts whatever is allowed in, and here's the key...it accepts it as reality. Whatever you heard drilled into your mind as a child, is likely running at full bore. Does this mean we blame our parents? No, it's not that easy. Once upon a time you could blame mom and dad, the teachers, etc., but once you hit 16-18 years old your brain waves change. These changes in brain waves are a natural part of maturing and cause you to test what you have been taught. It's at this point in life that you must now reckon with what you've been dealt with. If you haven't already, which many of us haven't, you must evaluate what's in the subconscious and either save, or discard. How do you know what's in there? Check out the things you do on auto, say on auto, react on auto, etc., this is your subconscious. Don't like it? Change it.You're the only one who can.

SELF-TALK

What you've told yourself about yourself is very much alive and living in the subconscious. Pictures, music, relationships, beliefs, and attitudes are stored in here.... as treasures. Only, some are to your disadvantage. Others are to your advantage. YOU must be brave enough to call them forth and deal with them, or they will forever run your life. No joke.

WORKING WITH AND TRAINING THE SUBCONSCIOUS

The good news is you can change what goes into your subconscious. To work with your mind on both conscious and subconscious levels, you must use your conscious mind. This is a daunting task at first, as you must be aware of EVERY thought you have and monitor it's origination, then deem it valuable to you or not, before allowing yourself to make a decision. Buy into it or not? Think of the thought as a sales person at your door selling you either a good quality product that's a steal of a deal or a bunch of B.S.

PRIME TIME

The best time to put new information into your subconscious is just prior to sleep. The state of mind just prior to falling asleep is called 'Alpha'. Alpha is the same state people are brought into within minutes of watching television and movies, hence, each time a person is 'watching', they are also being programmed at the subconscious level. Movie and television producers have known this for a long, long time, and use it to their advantage 24/7. All the more reason to stay 'conscious' of what you're thinking and make course corrections as you deem fit.

The tricky part about alpha state is that it's so easy to fall asleep within minutes, the way around this is to meditate. Meditation is bringing the body and brain to a state of relaxation, clearing the mental chatter and sinking into thoughts of what it is you desire to achieve. Meditation has been found to reduce stress levels, lower blood pressure, alleviate depression, and calm anxiety - all of which run lead to disease and discord - meditate daily.  Meditation will also bring one to an alpha state and allow them to 'program' themselves. 

During the alpha state - take a good 15 minutes or so and not only tell yourself what you expect of yourself, but visualize it as well, and to top it off, add emotion to it. Fall asleep with these positive thoughts, visuals, and emotions and you'll be on a road to success!

WHAT IS SUCCESS?

success |səkˈses|
noun
the accomplishment of an aim or purpose : the president had some success in restoring confidence.
• the attainment of popularity or profit : the success of his play.
• a person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains prosperity : I must make a success of my business.
• archaic the outcome of an undertaking, specified as achieving or failing to achieve its aims : the good or ill success of their maritime enterprises.

This is what you want, yes? Success in reaching your goals? 

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Weight Loss Gimmicks...... Don't Buy Into Them!!

 "Eat these Five Foods and Lose Your Body Fat"

"Click on the Physique you Like and we'll tell you What Supplements to take to get It"

 "Lose 1-2 lbs. a Day with HCG Drops"

I just love headlines like these. Leading yet more and more Americans astray. Take a pill. Take some drops. Seriously? 

DO NOT BE MISLEAD

Too many people are in a quiet state of desperation while struggling with their weight. When are we going to learn that what you see, hear, and read about everything, is....

MARKETING |ˈmärkiti ng |
noun
the action or business of promoting and selling products or services, including market research and advertising - Including BS!

There's plenty of mighty good marketers out there. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to notice how strongly marketing is geared towards 'Holidays', and when there isn't a holiday close enough they'll target 'Seasonal' items.  

In the wake of the post-holiday general weight gain aftermath, many people find themselves struggling to lose the weight. They hear about how 'so and so'  lost an incredible amount of weight fast, and they want to hear all about it. People are always looking for a shortcut. Anything worthwhile is going to take effort, dedication, focus, persistence, sacrifice and work!!!

BACK TO THE BASICS

Nothing has changed folks. Losing body fat is a matter of eating lean, clean, whole foods, exercising, drinking plenty of water daily to keep your body flushed out, and above all a 'Can Do' state of mind. 'Try to' doesn't cut it. 'Want to' doesn't cut it. Forget the pills, drops, gadgets you see on television, and severely restricted diets. Walk, run, climb, swim, push, pull, jump, skip, pedal, lift boxes, barrels, rocks, cans, small and large objects, heck, lift and carry people around...your kids will LOVE it! 

My kids love to pick me up and carry me around, seriously. It all started when my daughter, Chantelle, who was five at the time asked me, "Mom, can I try picking you up?" "Sure", I said. I stood trying not to laugh at the thought of this little girl trying to pick me up. I laughed even harder when she did it!! Then she wanted to do it again, and again, and again. It wasn't long before she started taking a few steps while holding me up around the legs. By eight years, she would pick me up and carry me down the hallway round trip, on her back....yep, all for FUN!.  A few years later, she offered to carry her Uncle who stands six feet minimum and weighed roughly 186, down the hallway. She did it, and then she carried him down the stairs!

WHAT'S THE POINT?

The point I want to make here is how natural using our body really is. All the added gidgets and gadgets? I'll admit, I like a run on the treadmill come winter when roads are cold and icy. Ditto a stationary bike, ARC trainer, etc., the type of gidgets and gadgets I'm talking about are the ones you find advertised on television for just three easy payments of $14.99. Don't waste your time or money! Man evolved many a decade by good old fresh air, sunshine, healthy attitude, diverse terrain, and chores to boot. Be creative!

PERFECT WHAT?

Nothing is perfect except imperfection. Do what you like. Eat reasonable portions, read labels, honestly, if you're eating clean enough there really won't be much reading involved, but if you're looking at man made items, READ EVER SO CAREFULLY. 

WHAT TO DO?

Step out of your box. Then jump on and off your box. Then throw your box as far as you can. Then load your box with rocks and carry it for a few miles, run home with it, lift it overhead several times, set it down and squat on it a few hundred times, next, tie a rope around it, and pull it around the block, push it up a hill, then...and only then, my friend, you may sit on it and begin doing leg lifts, crunches, push-ups, step-ups, and cart wheels over the top. When you've had all the fun you possibly could have, sit next to your lovely box and drink your protein shake, enjoy the view, breath in all that fresh air, and clear your mind. Refreshing? Indeed! 

You've got the idea, now run with it, literally.

Forget about the marketing, listen to your inner voice. 

Health!

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The Solution to Resolutions

THE GOOD

It’s that time of year again. A New Year has arrived and many new opportunities await us. What an exciting time! 

Before we move any farther into the New Year it’s important to look at where you’ve been, what you’ve accomplished, the people in your life, the opportunities you’ve ceased, places traveled, obstacles overcome, fears tackled, goals achieved, friends made, loved ones laid to rest, rivers crossed, so on and so forth.

Be sure to make note of all the people, places and things that have brought you joy, enhanced your life, educated you, brought you a breathe of fresh air, hope, fulfillment, and made you a better person for it. 

Give thanks. Smile.

THE BAD, AND THE UGLY

On the other hand, be sure to look at your perceived failures. The things that didn’t go quite as planned, or hoped for. The things, people, events and/or circumstances that brought you pain, heartache or disappointment. Be sure to acknowledge how you handled each scenario. Did you handle it in such a way as to build you into a stronger person? Or did you allow it to tear you down, or worse yet, apart? Many prefer to not look at these situations, however, there is no course to chart if we don’t know where we’ve been.  Much can be learned by our mistakes. Look. Learn. Grow. Do not fear. Do not be ashamed. The thing about mistakes, or things that have gone awry is it’s never to late to look at it again with a new perspective, deal with it and let it go. Now that’s refreshing!

WHY PEOPLE FAIL 

We hear over and over again how people make the same New Year’s Resolution(s) year after year, because they never seem to be able to conquer them. They are slaves to bondage. No habit or addiction compares to the freedom of overcoming. This is why one must evaluate carefully, not only their resolutions (which I prefer to refer to as goals from this point), but must be able to know exactly why they did not reach their goal. For every why you didn’t reach your goal, come up with what you’ll do differently this time, or it is sure to be a failure again. 

People mean well, but deep down do not: 

1. Take the time to really think things through

2. Believe in themselves

3. Trust in themselves

4. Have the  true faith necessary, to take the steps daily to accomplish the small and simple.

5. Create a plan

6. Believe a Higher Power can help them through difficult times

7. Think it’s possible, and/or believes it will require too much sacrifice

8. Believe their current life isn’t so bad, and therefore settles for less than their potential

9. Plan a realistic goal, become overwhelmed and give up.

THE SOLUTION

You’ve all heard of the SMART formula. 

S - specific, significant, stretching

M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

T - time-based, timely, tangible, trackable

This is smart advice!

WHERE DO I START?

1. TAKE TIME

Any great leader you may have read about has taken the time to be alone to think, reflect,  listen, seek direction and make plans. Between phone calls, texts, e-mails, meetings, appointments, errands, families, job commitments, volunteering and the daily essentials of living, it’s no wonder people run out of time for themselves. Be sure to put ‘you’ time on your schedules, just as you would any other important person in your life, and stick to it. Allow yourself time to get to somewhere quiet, unpopulated, and serene. Allow yourself enough time to get there, relax, and have some good quality, quiet time away from the stresses of life, this will enable you to think more clearly, and get in touch with your inner feelings. 

2. BE CLEAR

For success in reaching your goals you need to be clear on a few things: What you want, why you want it, and how you will attain it. Write it down. You must also have a burning desire to accomplish it! As in “No such thing as an obstacle”. Simply figure out a way around it, through it, or eliminate it! If you want something bad enough, you’ll get it. Look at your past successes. What drove you? How did you feel about it? How did you accomplish it? How did you feel when you overcame perceived obstacles? And more importantly, how did you feel when you made it to the end, and reached your goal? Surely you must have reached some important milestone in your life by now, most likely several. If you can reach one goal, you can reach another. 

3. CREATE A PLAN

Yes, you must be actively engaged in reaching your goal, daily! Goal reaching is not a passive activity. I started by wearing a gaudy bracelet many years ago, on my left hand. When I did something that day to reach my goal, I allowed myself to move the bracelet to my right hand and then had the choice to leave it there until the next day, or put it away until the following morning, and repeat the process again. I disliked that bracelet so much, I made sure I put my goal item at the top of my list each day, so I could take the blasted thing off! It worked. Find what works for you. 

Write down the steps necessary to reach your goal, then go back and fill in how and when you will do it. Do this for each step all the way to the final objective. It takes a bit of time, but it’s so worth it! You’ll be amazed at how things begin to fall into place as you make the conscious effort to reach your goals daily.

Update your progress on a weekly basis. I like to keep a calendar of everything that was accomplished that week to bring me closer to my goal. This way I can literally see the progress being made, and it’s very motivating. 

Work your plan, and it will work for you.

4. BE FLEXIBLE

Be open to new ideas, possibilities, or pathways to get you to where you would like to be. Be flexible on the time issue. Understand life and time are two constantly evolving things, controlled, yet uncontrollable. Manage the items you can, manage them well, and let the rest go, no stewing, no complaining, just keep pressing forward... keep believing. 

Keep your goals alive.

5. START WITH THE END IN MIND

Don’t  know where to start? Wondering what’s really important to you? 

I’ll give you a few ideas.

1. Professional

2. Educational

3. Intellectual

4. Relationship(s)

5. Creative things

6. Spiritual

7. Volunteer

8. Health

9. Fun/Play (Recreation)

10. Material object(s)

I suggest choosing one goal at a time when beginning, to ensure success. Juggling too many goals can be overwhelming, and set you up for failure, however, as you get into the practice of deciding what it is you want, create a plan, write your plan, and follow through to completion, goal setting and reaching a goal can be a multi-goal process.

Some people like to start with a category and do one thing daily, others weekly, and still others monthly, it just depends on you, your circumstances, and most of all, your desire.

BOTTOM LINE

Support systems are wonderful. Ask any military what it’s like to work on a Team that has it together, understands what a Team is about, and how ultimately, each member of the Team knows one another inside and out. They know eachothers strengths, weaknesses, and can literally tell by the look in their eyes or expression on their face, what needs to be done and who needs to do it. This is a supreme blessing. When you come back into civilian life, it’s an adjustment, mainly because you’re beginning from the ground up, building a brand new support system which functions on a different plane. Maintaining the inner strength you once had on your Team might present itself as a challenge, but it can be dealt with and make you a much stronger person for it. This is a topic for another blog. The point here, is to acknowledge your support system, use it, but use it wisely. Never rely solely on a support system.

Only you can make things happen in your life. Sure, a support system is nice but people come and people go. Even the people who have been with us for many years have times they need to be absent due to their own circumstances, of course they care, but you must know you can pull through anything, with or without the support of others. The only person you can truly rely on 100% of the time, is yourself. Get to know yourself. Struggle through the hard times, the lonely times, the uncertain times and you will grow immensely as a person. 

This is another element of ‘Mental Toughness’. Learn it. Grow.

As you hold yourself accountable, you will gain inner strength. The key here is to follow through whether you feel like it or not, whether you want to or not, whether it’s raining or snowing, you must daily keep pressing forward. The only way to understand the growth that comes from achieving is to follow through, period. No one can do it for you. 

No excuses.

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THE WAY OF THE WARRIOR

WE ARE ALL WARRIORS TO SOME DEGREE
Yes, the Warrior Within. I believe each of us, to some degree, carries within us the Warrior Spirit. When I say this, I'm not referring to battle warriors who are setting out for war in a physical way, rather I'm referring to the Spirit that resides within the Warrior. However, we can certainly liken battle warriors going to war, to everyday situations we as a people, and society, face. Yes, face. Warriors stand up and face what's coming their way, plan the best strategy possible for the time available, and make do with the provisions on hand, take confidence in their plan (or mission if you will), and press forward, not looking back. No "Could have's, Should have's". It is the doubter within each of us that wants to run, to deny, leave it to someone else, or plain give up, that sets the dividing line between Warrior and Coward.

DOUBT
Doubt is a demon. Doubt will take you off the path to your chosen, longed for goals faster than an Air Force jet flying though the sky. Doubt weakens, destroys, causes low self-esteem, low self-confidence, runs from responsibility, and if left unattended, will run every aspect of your life, leaving you with nothing but lingering moments of pure satisfaction here and there. I believe doubt is a tool of the devil. He uses it among susceptible individuals. He looks for those who haven't yet chosen to stand their ground, and see what they are made of. 

WHAT IS A WARRIOR?
A Warrior is someone who shows great vigor, courage, and aggressiveness, when necessary. A Warrior displays characteristics of power, confidence, accomplishment, integrity, and honor. You say you want to be a Warrior? You say you are a Warrior?  Perhaps you are. Congratulations, as this means you have paid your dues, and continue to do so, as the way of the Warrior is hard work, long hours, many trials, tribulations, heartaches, and from such experiences arise the growth and education necessary for the Warrior to learn. Few there be who can truly endure the path of a Warrior. 

WHAT KEEPS PEOPLE FROM DEVELOPING THE WARRIOR WITHIN?
Many things keep people from the Warrior Within. First, and foremost, I believe an individuals greatest challenge is the basic concept of having faith in ones self. Trusting in ones self, and ultimately... being true to ones self. You know if you are true to yourself. What do you choose to do when no one is looking? What do you choose to do with your 'spare time'? What are the the thoughts you think? How do you spend your money? Hell, even how you earn your money, all tell something about yourself. People who are true to themselves go to bed at night, sleep, and sleep well. Those who are not true to themselves do not, and will not ever have, peace of mind as the Warrior does. One cannot live in contradiction to themselves, it's Universal Law, my friends. 

Many people find it's easier to go see a movie (Thus taking them out of reality for awhile), then face what they need to face. People tend to eat, entertain themselves, cater to addictions, and do anything possible to keep them from becoming a Warrior, or allowing the Warrior Within to manifest itself. I call this self-sabotage. Don't get me wrong, entertainment is great, let's just not let it replace more important items on our life's agenda. People fear growth, change, and loss of control, yet these are the very tools a Warrior must use to move forward in life. Once a person discovers these keys, life changes, so long as they are willing, ready, and can let go of fear.

"The biggest challenge a person will ever face in life, is them self." Jill Nix

DO NOT BE DECEIVED
There are many warriors amongst us: Cancer survivors, military survivors, survivors period. Survivors of anything and anything you could ever imagine. These are the people who have given up blame. They have given up excuses. They have given up reasoning. They have learned to "let go", to receive, to believe, to fester up from within an undeniable power greater than anything they've ever experienced, and walk with it. They have chosen to humble themselves, give, teach, and live from their hearts. They have been to hell and back, have allowed themselves to learn from it, grow from the experience, and live their lives accordingly.

THE WAY OF THE WARRIOR IS SACRED
No one can judge. We all go through hard times. Some thrive and come out that much stronger, others wilt and we never see, nor hear, from them again. The way of the Warrior is a sacred experience. Life is a sacred experience. May we walk each day with faith unwavering, and trust that we are equipped to handle whatever we need to handle. May we learn from one another. May we never judge another, as we have not walked in his, or her, shoes. May we each have the strength, commitment, and dedication to walk the way of the Warrior. May we pause to assist those who need our help, encouragement, and steady hand, when they may be experiencing a moment of weakness. 

I challenge you to look up vigor, courage, (healthy) aggressiveness, power, confidence, accomplishment, integrity, and honor. Write their meanings down. Memorize them, if being a Warrior is important to you. Decide where your weak points are, strengthen them. Decide where your strong points are, utilize them. Most importantly...DECIDE. You see, you must take action on what you believe in. You must weave it into your everyday life. You must be active in it's growth, as no one can do this for you, but you yourself. 

May we each have the strength to stand tall, decide, commit, and follow through.

Health!

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Trials and Challenges: What's the purpose?

Welcome to the dance of Life. Expect the unexpected. There may be rough times.....


Are you in a tough spot? Are you going through a rough time? Do you just wish it would already be over with? I can relate. We've all been there however, be careful if you're trying to 'push' your way though it, because the lesson intended for you to learn could be overlooked and unfortunately, brought back to you again... that, my friend, is no fun.

I can relate to too many times in my Type A, high strung life, I've 'missed the boat', only to have another come up on the horizon carrying the same cargo I thought I just ditched, no good. It seems there have been times I've kept an entire harbor busy.... reloading it's goods to deliver to me again and again, until I finally dealt with them. 

What does dealing with them entail? It entails facing the issue squarely, taking the necessary responsibility to 'take care' of it, which leads to the final step... taking calculated intelligent action, step by step, until it is resolved as best as possible, and then move forward having learned important lessons along the way of which to store securely in your Book of Life Lessons, never to be repeated. 

What kind of lessons? We generally encounter lessons that will help us grow from the inside out, a few to consider are:
- patience
- understanding
- develop organizational skills
- communication skills
- financial savvy
- teach us to think outside of the box
- that you are stronger than you know
- smarter than you thought
- that you can handle 'big' problems afterall

The list goes on and on....

The rough times, tough times and challenging moments of our lives are teaching moments. Heed the call. Get out your map. Make one if you don't have one. Chart your course. Gear up... mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Pack well for your journey, as you have no idea how long it will last. Look for a good crew to help keep you stay on course. Set out. Face your fears. Conquer. Rejoice. Return with honor.


Health! 

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BODYWEIGHT and RELATIONSHIPS

Todays blog is written with the best intentions, to help educate, motivate, and hopefully alleviate any false perceptions of how a persons weight, can, and many times DOES affect our relationships.

I receive phone calls, e-mails, and texts on a regular basis from loving, caring individuals deeply concerned for the health and well-being of their loved one(s). Many times, when a person is overweight, they feel trapped in a place they'd truly rather not be. I say this as a result of speaking with my clients who have been very outspoken, and brave about confronting their weight. Some have teetered on suicide, others live quietly feeling less than human, and still, there are others who accept themselves for who they are, are happy, and stay active. 

My own opinion is, I do not believe anyone is overweight because they want to be. There are very few cases where genetics play the key factor. Injuries can change a person forever depending on the injury itself. I'm amazed and inspired by individuals who overcome such tremendous odds. 'Soul Surfer', Bethany Hamilton, is an example of faith, strength, and determination. There are many others. 

There are other health conditions that can affect weight gain and weight loss, like hypothyroid, for instance, or a hysterectomy, or cancer. Any health issue that throws the body into hormonal distress can, and many times will throw the body into a confused weight storing machine. For cancer patients who survive, chemotherapy and radiation can forever change the individuals 'make-up', an destroy a once functioning system, making exercise much more challenging, and results much harder to come by. I hold cancer survivors in high admiration. They have been through an awful lot. Many pick up the once shattered pieces and begin living their lives all over again. My dear sister is one of them. I love her with all my heart. One can never be judged. 

In most situations, where there are no health issues, weight gain is a condition that comes on ever so gradually. Where there are eating disorders, and emotional eating, the relationship with food for many becomes a love/hate relationship. If not reckoned with, it can become a vicious cycle where many find themselves too embarrassed to turn for help. 

TO THOSE WHO ARE STRUGGLING WITH WEIGHT
I encourage you to take a leap of faith. To hold your heads up high. Look at yourself in the mirror and fall in love with the person you are looking at. You are an incredible person. Look at all the other areas of your life you are successful. You can be successful at whatever you put your mind to. It is never too late to begin. You are not too old, too tired, too far gone, etc., you have what it takes to get the job done. Your loved ones are there to support you. They do not want you to lose weight for the 'looks' of it. 

THIS IS WHAT LOVED ONES TELL ME THEY DESIRE AND WANT YOU TO KNOW
They deeply care and love you more than you'll ever know. They want you around for a long time. They want you to be strong. They want you to be healthy. They want you to have energy. They want you to be happy. They want to take you places, and make memories. They want you to run around with them, go on trips, swim, climb, and have an awesome retirement together. Perhaps you are already doing these things. Great!  

START WHERE YOU ARE AT, WITH WHAT YOU HAVE, AND TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME.....
Begin with the knowledge you have. Begin with what you can do TODAY. Visit your physician and get a 'go ahead' for activity. Get any tests performed that he or she feels necessary. Get yourself a nice journal. Begin entering your thoughts, feelings, pictures, and future plans of what you desire in your life. Believe that you can indeed achieve. Learn whatever is necessary to keep progressing. Please, do not be embarrassed or afraid to ask for help. Others want to be of service to you, but do not want you to feel pressured. It must be your choice. 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I have studied eating disorders for years. More people suffer from an eating disorder than recognized. Many times athletes, including figure, bodybuilding, and other sports where physique is critiqued and body fat matters, eating disorders can become a silent killer. Ballerina's have had the most exposure in the past for such conditions. I mention this because I want you to be aware that eating disorders are everywhere, not just in the overweight population.

HOW DOES WEIGHT AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
From my observations, and speaking with both clients and their families, the number one complaint I hear on both sides is it creates an area of .... contention. Contention of weight related conversations. Contention when a spouse speaks or looks at another of the opposite sex. Contention about meals that are prepared and/or food being bought and brought into the home. Contention about misunderstandings of the situation, and contention about what each side desires, and finding a happy medium. Yes, weight can and indeed many times does... cause conflict within relationships that many would rather not deal with. 

Our body weight is a very personal thing. Words spoken can be taken personally. Sometimes they can be outright painful. When it comes to our lives, health, relationships, and so forth, I believe it is crucial in dealing with these matters straight on, one step at a time. Get counseling where counseling is necessary. Get a trainer when a trainer is necessary. Get a life coach if you feel the need. This goes for both 'sides', until one blessed day, there are no more 'sides' it's just us being us.

I'll never forget when I was living in my 'bubble', I was told I couldn't run, etc., because I would inevitably end up in the emergency room, unable to breathe. At this point in my life, I came home from school turned on the television and ate, and ate, and ate some more. I ate away my boredom, my frustrations, my loneliness. Then, one day, I noticed a stack of pictures that had just come back from summer vacation. I was looking at one upside-down and couldn't make out who I was looking at, as they did not look familiar to me. I was shocked when I spun the picture around and saw it was a heavy ME! I did not like what I saw, and it caused me to question what I had been told by doctors. I decided to take matters in my own hands. No, it was not fun. Yes, it was painful. No, I did not get results overnight. Yes, I was making slow but sure progress. No, I didn't give up. Yes, there were days I felt like it.   

YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU CAN DO UNTIL YOU MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO DO IT! Notice I said 'DO IT', not 'try'. 

It's the little day by day, tedious, sometimes rather monotonous, things that bring about progress , and eventually...success! Do not be fooled, THERE IS NO GRAND MOMENT. The moment is NOW. 

I hope this has been helpful. 
Health!

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